Sometimes I imagine what it would be like to remember my fathers voice, the way he was before addiction. The things he would do as FATHER, NOT as an addict. I can say easily that I don't love my father, I don't care what he is doing, what he will be doing, or what will happen to him in the future. What i do care about is that missing feeling of having a male figure. I mean I have/had so many issues already about not having a father. Am I more feminine because of the direct result of having no father? Do i tend to not have male friends because I can find no relation to males? I hear all the time, "Are you gay? Why you dress the way you do? Why are you so feminine?" Was this a result of being raised by a mother/grandmother/aunt, and only having sisters? I can't go back and change it, and therapists say it's irreversible. Still to this day he has the nerve, after cheating, stealing, beating, hurting, and haunting me, to still talk to me. Who does he think he is? Really he is just a waste of space, he hurts my sisters like he used to hurt me, because they let there guards down like I did. I mean he is getting like $70,000+, from my grandma dying at the end of the year 2009. He already received $30,000, in which he saved roughly $10,000 for a years living and with the rest he blew it in a week in Vegas. Probably on drugs, hookers, and gambling. Then I get these other emotions such as; when he gets his money I hope he over doses, dies and leaves the rest of the money in better hands. That could be my sisters money for college, or my money to travel somewhere away from all this pain. I can cope with it though. It's not like before where I try to kill the pain with hurting myself or suicide attempts. I just cope. It's hard to do but I do, I guess I just want someone else to just say I understand, not I can't understand but I know it is hard. Someday I will forget about him, but for now I can't. I just don't know why but I can't.